Set Your Relationship Expectations and Find a Partner Who Meets Them

October 31, 2016

We all have those friends who have been in relationships that just don’t work out, or perhaps, you’ve even been in one yourself. One of the reasons that these partnerships aren’t successful is because you haven’t set your relationship expectations, and you don’t really know what you’re looking for. Could it be that you’re falling into relationships without considering who your prospective partner is, and if he/she is actually ready to commit? It’s much easier to look at a relationship through “rose-colored glasses” rather than facing the reality of the situation.

Whatever the case may be, 44% of Americans are single right now, which means there is plenty of opportunity to set your relationship expectations now and find a partner who meets them!

So, before beginning your search for a partner, here’s what you need to consider.

Look for someone who is truly ready for a relationship.

This goes without saying, but is often overlooked. It’s important to find someone who is ready – truly ready – for a relationship. So how do you know that the person you meet is ready for a relationship? Well, ROVR can help! ROVR is the place to find someone who is looking for the same type of relationship that you are. There are no mixed signals, because those who are interested in a committed relationship will be in the Serious Section of the app. There is no need for guesswork!

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When you meet someone who is looking for a relationship just like you, it is still very important that you try to determine if they are right for you. Look for people who are interested in having healthy relationships and show signs of selflessness; they’re not entirely focused on themselves.  Are they interested in meeting you in person for the very first time? If so, are they making an effort to plan the first date? While on that first date, do they show interest in getting to know you? Actively asking questions about your career and about your life demonstrates a desire to get to know you better!

Ready for a Relationship

Create your list – and stick to it.

Have you created a list of qualities that you’re looking for in a prospective partner? This can help you take a realistic look at what is truly important to you.

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We’re not talking about the color of their hair or how much money they make. Instead, include things that are important to you, such as, personality, family background, hobbies, career, and life goals. If you’re an avid runner and the person sitting across from you at the dinner table on your first date is someone who prefers to sleep in and drink all weekend, you might experience challenges down the line!

Make a decision now not to settle.

When you’re meeting someone for the first time, it can be easy to ‘settle’. We’ve all done it. Sometimes we want so desperately to be in a relationship, that we settle for the first person who shows any level of interest.

As you’re creating your list, make a clear decision not to settle. Take a realistic look at the person sitting across from you and avoid making any rash decisions.

Whatever you do, don’t settle. The right person is out there for you!

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Communicate with your prospective partner from the very beginning.

When it comes to first, second and third dates, we often find ourselves holding back; we don’t necessarily communicate about the things that we need. However, it’s important to set these expectations early on.

Communication Couple

If you have definite deal-breakers, it’s okay to communicate them as you’re getting to know someone. We’re not talking about sitting down at a bar and immediately asking your date if he/she is open to having children – no! – we’re simply talking about not being afraid to discuss your own deal-breakers throughout your first few dates. This way you’ll know if there is any chance of a positive relationship developing. One mistake couples make is not having these conversations early in a relationship and finding out months later that you and your partner have very different expectations.

As you are beginning the process of dating and searching for a positive relationship, take into consideration the ways in which you can set your relationship expectations. Remember that you deserve the best, so don’t be afraid to wait for the best!